手機(jī)版
Here are the 10 reasons why men fail with women, and how to make sure you avoid every one of these deadly common mistakes...
Number 10 Being too much of a nice guy
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in you.
What's going on here? It's actually very simple.
Women don't base their choice of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful gut level attraction to them.
And guess what?
Being a nice guy won't make a woman feel that powerful attraction to you. And being nice won't make a woman choose you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to accept... but get over it.
Until you accept this fact and begin to act on it, you'll never have the success with women that you want.
Number 9 Trying to convince her to like you
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they really like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you: You will never change how a woman "feels" when it comes to attraction!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a woman to feel differently about you by means of "logic and reasoning."
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that feeling by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
Number 8 Looking for her approval
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), we guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission."
This is another horrible idea.
Women are never attracted to the type of men who kiss up to them... ever.
Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women badly for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things," think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get annoyed at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her.
You can't buy your way to her heart.
Number 7 Trying to buy her affection
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her reject you for someone who didn't treat her even half as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a lot.
Well guess what? It's only natural when this happens.
That's right, I said natural.
When you do these things, you're sending a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection."
Your good intentions usually come across to women as overcompensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said
that women see this asmanipulation.
Number 6 Sharing your feelings too early
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare. And they get a lot of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are approached in one way or another all the time.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a day by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often hundreds of times per month.
And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a lot of men.
That's right. They have experience. They know what to expect.
And nothing turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, really like you" after only one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way...
Number 5 Not "getting" how attraction works
Women are very different from men when it comes to attraction. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he instantly feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things her than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're more attracted to the way that a man makes them feel than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that you feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to learn how to do this. And any guy can learn how.
Number 4 Thinking that it takes money & looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started, because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But most women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are certain personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, you can be one of those guys.
You do not have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that you feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
Keep the ball in your court.
Number 3 Giving up power
Earlier, I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, a similar mistake occurs when a guy gives his power away to a woman.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
And that's another bad idea...
Women are never attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to wussies!
Number 2 Failing to read dating situations
Now I'm going to blow your mind... a woman always knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately 10 times better than men at reading body language. That's 10 times.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But, for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly how to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for all aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and lose everything.
And you know it.
It is vitally important that you know exactly how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
Number 1 Not getting help
This is the biggest mistake of them all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from ever having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know that guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help. Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about how I figured out how to be successful with women...
About five years ago, I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet and get dates with the women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't build up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot, I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... the feeling that, because I don't know how to meet women, I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
這篇文章講述的是十個(gè)讓男人泡不到妞的原因，并讓他們學(xué)會避免犯下這每一個(gè)既致命又平常的錯(cuò)誤。
第十個(gè) 好人好過頭了
你是否已經(jīng)注意到那些真正迷人的女性似乎從不會被好男人所吸引呢？
當(dāng)然你已經(jīng)注意到了。
你身邊那些魅力四射的女孩子,總是喜歡與那些大男子主義者交往,卻對你產(chǎn)生不了羅曼蒂克的感覺.
為什么會這樣？其實(shí)很簡單。
女性的選擇不會基于男性究竟有多友好。她們選擇的伴侶，是因?yàn)楸话閭H強(qiáng)大的勇氣所迷住。
猜猜為什么？
做一個(gè)好男人不能使女性從你身上感受到強(qiáng)大的吸引力。因此友好是不能讓女性選擇你的。
我知道這不能成為合乎邏輯的道理，它很難去認(rèn)同。但是別管那么多。
到你認(rèn)識到這個(gè)事實(shí)才開始行動時(shí)，你將永遠(yuǎn)不會成功得到你心目中的女人。
第九個(gè) 試圖說服她喜歡你
當(dāng)遇到一個(gè)讓你動心可又不對你動心的女人，大伙兒會做什么？
對！他們試圖去讓女人感覺不一樣。
嗯，我有個(gè)忠告給你：當(dāng)女人遇到讓她動心的人，你不可能使她們的感覺發(fā)生改變。
不，不，絕不。
你不能通過常理和邏輯去試圖讓一個(gè)女人對你感覺不一樣。
想想吧。
如果一個(gè)女人不那個(gè)你，難道你還想通過跟她講道理來使她回心轉(zhuǎn)意？
但是我們都這樣做。當(dāng)一個(gè)女人對你不動心，我們就會求她請她，煩著她，反正使出九牛二虎之力去改變她的心意。
壞主意啊。這樣做肯定導(dǎo)致失敗。
第八個(gè) 請求她的許可
為了我們的愿望去請求女士（我們錯(cuò)誤地認(rèn)為要使他們喜歡我們），我們總是做某些事情去獲得女士們的許可或批準(zhǔn)。
這是另一個(gè)可怕的念頭。
女士們永不會被那種對她們拍馬屁的男性所吸引，永不。
別讓我在這里犯糊涂了。你不可能通過惡劣地招待女士來讓她喜歡你。
但如果你認(rèn)為對一個(gè)女人好就意味著總是要得到她的允許和批準(zhǔn)。麻煩再想想。
請求允許，你將永不會成功，女人實(shí)際上會覺得請求她允許的男人很煩。
不信？隨便問問那些迷人的尤物們，如果懦弱無能的人老打擾著她請求她的許可，她是否覺得十分糾結(jié)。
你不能強(qiáng)求她接受你的意見。
第七條 嘗試買得她的愛情
有多少次你對一個(gè)女性獻(xiàn)盡殷勤，請吃飯啊，送禮物啊，贈鮮花啊，而她最后是否為了一個(gè)還沒有你對她一半好的男人而拒絕了你？
如果你做了像我所說的，那么你肯定經(jīng)歷了不少這樣的事情。
這是為啥？很自然會發(fā)生這種事。
對，我是說很自然。
當(dāng)你做這些事情時(shí)，你正發(fā)出一個(gè)明確的信號：“我不認(rèn)為你會為了我是誰而愛我，因此我要用金錢來買取你的注意和感情。”
你美好的心意通常會被女士當(dāng)作沒有安全感的補(bǔ)償和被操縱的軟弱企圖。對，我說的就是女士們會看出被操縱。
第六條 過早吐露你的心意
另一個(gè)巨大而不幸的錯(cuò)誤就是大部分跟女人交往著的男人都過早吐露他們的心意。
迷人的女人是珍貴的。她們從男人那獲得大量的關(guān)注。
大部分男人沒有意識到這一點(diǎn)，但迷人的女性總是被通過種種的方式接近著。
一個(gè)迷人的女人經(jīng)常一天之內(nèi)會被為她動心的男人數(shù)次接近。如此類推，將是一個(gè)星期幾十次，一個(gè)月成百上千次。
猜猜會發(fā)生什么？迷人的女性通常會跟很多男人約會。
沒錯(cuò)，她們已經(jīng)經(jīng)歷過了，她們懂得去期待什么。
因此沒有事情可以改變一個(gè)迷人的女人，讓她在一兩次約會后，比一個(gè)剛開始說：“你知道，我確實(shí)，確實(shí)喜歡你”的男人逃得更快。
這個(gè)信號告訴女士：你就像其他男人一樣不能自已，太快迷上她了。
所以，千萬不要這樣做，懸崖立馬，放松。更好的機(jī)會等著你。
第五條 沒弄明白如何去吸引人
當(dāng)女人遇到吸引人的事物時(shí)會表現(xiàn)得與男人非常的不同。你必需接受并解決這個(gè)事實(shí)。
當(dāng)男人遇見一個(gè)年輕貌美，性感迷人的女人 ，他立即感收到一股女性的吸引力。
可是對女人會產(chǎn)生同樣作用嗎？
嗯， 當(dāng)研究了這個(gè)問題長達(dá)整整4年后，我可以告訴你女人有著自己獨(dú)有的“吸引機(jī)制”，它不因外貌而受某些事情所觸發(fā)。
你有沒有注意到很多比較普通和沒有魅力的男人反爾身邊簇?fù)碇利惖呐耍?/p>
想想為什么。
女人其實(shí)更注意男人的某些特質(zhì)。她們更容易被那些讓她們有感覺而不是期待孤單的男人所吸引。
要是你懂得如何正確運(yùn)用你的身體語言和交流技巧，當(dāng)你遇見一個(gè)性感火辣的年輕女子時(shí)，你可以讓她同樣感受到強(qiáng)大的男性魅力。
但這不是個(gè)意外。你必需學(xué)習(xí)如何去做。任何人都可以學(xué)到。
第四條 過于看重金錢和外貌
一個(gè)男人最常犯的錯(cuò)誤就是還沒開始行動便放棄。因?yàn)樗麄円詾槊匀说呐钥偸侵粚δ男╅L的帥的，有錢的，或者身材標(biāo)準(zhǔn)的，年齡合適的人感興趣。
誠然，某些女人的確只看重這些。
但絕大部分的女人更感興趣的并非男人的錢包或者外貌，而是他的個(gè)性品格。
有某些個(gè)性特征會想磁鐵般吸引女人的心思。
如果你認(rèn)識到它們是什么并懂得加以利用，你會變成受歡迎的一個(gè)。
你不必因?yàn)槟愕牟桓挥校煌Π�，或者不英俊，而特意為女人安排�?/p>
讓我再說一次：
要是你懂得如何正確運(yùn)用你的身體語言和交流技巧，當(dāng)你遇見一個(gè)性感火辣的年輕女子時(shí)，你可以讓她同樣感受到強(qiáng)大的男性魅力。
保持一切都在你的掌握之中。
第三條 放棄權(quán)力
之前，我說過尋求女人的允許和批準(zhǔn)是個(gè)錯(cuò)誤。
嗯，一個(gè)相似的錯(cuò)誤就是男人把他的權(quán)力都讓給女人。
換個(gè)說法就是，男人讓女人為所欲為來討取她的歡心。
這是另一個(gè)很壞的做法。
女人不會著迷于哪些讓她們駕馭的男人。女人不會喜歡懦夫的。
第二條 不懂得在適當(dāng)?shù)臅r(shí)候做適當(dāng)?shù)氖虑?/p>
現(xiàn)在我要讓你六神無主一下。女人總是了解你在想什么。
女性比男性約精通10倍看穿肢體語言。對，是10倍。
我知道，這難以置信。但是，舉個(gè)例，當(dāng)你與女性約會的時(shí)候，如果你想親她，她會知道的。
要是你不知道該做些啥，該怎樣親她，而只是呆坐著看她，并且一副緊張兮兮的樣子。她是絕對不會幫你的！
這也同樣適用于各個(gè)方面的女性和約會
接近一個(gè)女人，拿到電話號碼，約她出來，親吻她，獲得她的肉體等等所有一切
如果你不懂得適當(dāng)?shù)臅r(shí)候做適當(dāng)?shù)氖虑�，你很可能把事情搞砸，并一無所有。
你知道了吧。
從第一次約會，一直到同床共眠，懂得一步一步正確地與女人相處真是重要的要命啊。
第一條 不尋求幫助
這是所有男人最嚴(yán)重的錯(cuò)誤。
這個(gè)錯(cuò)誤讓無數(shù)男人與他們心馳神往的女人失之交臂，即使是那些有成就的男人也不能幸免。
我知道男人們不想讓自己看起來懦弱而無助。我們不喜歡尋找?guī)椭�。嘿，我干什么全憑一己之力。
讓我告訴你我是怎樣發(fā)現(xiàn)與女性成功相處的秘密吧。
大概5年前吧，我受夠了自己不懂如何與心動的女性溝通，接觸，約會。
它地獄搬地折磨著我。
一天晚上我跟一個(gè)朋友出去，我發(fā)現(xiàn)了一個(gè)我很想泡的女人，但我實(shí)在不能鼓起勇氣去跟她搭話。那個(gè)夜晚深深地刻在我的腦痕。當(dāng)場，我發(fā)誓無論如何都要搞懂如何與女性成功相處和約會。
啊，經(jīng)過數(shù)不清的艱苦努力和一連串的瘋狂嘗試，我終于找到了其中的奧妙。
我現(xiàn)在可以輕松接觸任何女人并立刻拿到她的電話號碼。我跟模特兒約會了，跟演員約會了，我還跟又好又正常的女性的約會過。
這已經(jīng)變成了非常有益的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。我不再感覺到痛苦和不自然了。當(dāng)初因?yàn)槲也欢绾胃越佑|產(chǎn)生了這種感覺，現(xiàn)在我終于親自結(jié)束了它。
現(xiàn)在，我自信在任何時(shí)間，任何地點(diǎn)，我都可以結(jié)識到魅力四射的女性。
