手機(jī)版
Every marriage will go through times of crisis. Some marriages will be strengthened by a crisis, others will be destroyed.
Here's help in avoiding having your marriage relationship hurt by loss and devastation.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Varies
Here's How:
Have a plan for such times... eat what ever is left in the freezer instead of planning a meal, let voice mail take your calls, ask for help from family and friends.
Don't blame one another for the situation.
When possible watch a funny movie together. Laugh a little.
Hug one another, hold one another, snuggle or have sex.
Don't worry about keeping the house or current residence super clean. Lower your expectations of one another a bit.
Remember your commitment to one another.
Compliment one another.
Find something positive in each day.
Remind yourselves that this crisis isn't going to last forever.
Ask for help from family and friends. Or find a support group.
If you are dealing with grief, accept that you must each grieve on your own schedule.
Don't keep your feelings bottled in. Share what is going on with your spouse.
Take it one day at a time.
Lower your stress level by exercising, eating healthy foods, drinking water, having some fun, and getting enough sleep.
Be patient. It takes time to overcome the trauma of a crisis.
Tips:
Although they can take a toll, traumatic events do NOT have to mean the end of your marriage.
Be realistic about what you can do and can't do in the midst of your crisis situation.
What You Need:
Commitment
Understanding
Sense of Humor
Communication Skills
Honesty
Patience
Being Realistic
每段姻將都會(huì)經(jīng)歷危機(jī)時(shí)期。有些婚姻會(huì)因?yàn)槲C(jī)而更加鞏固，而有些則會(huì)破裂。
這里可以幫助你避免婚姻關(guān)系受到損害和破壞。
難度：棘手
需要的時(shí)間：多變
這里告訴你怎么做：
1. 遇到這樣的情況就制定一個(gè)計(jì)劃：吃冰箱里剩下的東西而不是安排飯局，電話里留言，向家人和朋友尋求幫助。
2. 不要因?yàn)檫@樣的情況就相互指責(zé)。
3. 條件允許時(shí)一起看部有趣的電影，笑一笑。
4. 互相擁抱 ，互相依靠，偎依或者做愛(ài)。
5. 不要為保持房子或目前住處的過(guò)分清潔而操心。互相降低一點(diǎn)期望值。
6. 記得你們互相承諾的。
7. 互相贊美。
8. 每天都找一些樂(lè)觀的東西
9. 提醒自己這次危機(jī)不會(huì)永遠(yuǎn)存在。
10. 請(qǐng)求家人和朋友幫忙，或者尋找一些支持你的人。
11. 如果正在排解你的憂傷，接受它，你們得各自為自己的行為感到悲哀。
12. 不要把你的感受兜在心里。把發(fā)生的事情說(shuō)出來(lái)與和另一半共同分擔(dān)。
13. 每天都做一次。
14. 用這些方式減少壓力：鍛煉，吃健康的食物，喝水，找樂(lè)趣，保持充足的睡眠。
15. 做到耐心�？朔C(jī)的心理創(chuàng)傷是需要時(shí)間的。
技巧：
1. 盡管要付出代價(jià)，但是危機(jī)事件并不意味著它就是你婚姻的結(jié)局。
2. 在危機(jī)過(guò)程中，對(duì)你能做和不能做的事情都要理性面對(duì)。
你需要做到：
信任
理解
幽默感
溝通技巧
坦誠(chéng)
耐心
理性
