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"Happiness is a habit - cultivate it." ~ Elbert Hubbard
Happiness is one aspiration all people share. No one wants to be sad and depressed.
We've all seen people who are always happy - even amidst agonizing life trials. I'm not saying happy people don't feel grief, sorrow or sadness; they just don't let it overtake their life. The following are 21 things happy people make a habit of doing:
1. Appreciate Life
Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don't take anything for granted. Don't sweat the small stuff.
2. Choose Friends Wisely
Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.
3. Be Considerate
Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.
4. Learn Continuously
Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest - such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.
5. Creative Problem Solving
Don't wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don't let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts - it's almost always right.
6. Do What They Love
Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there's so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy - the extra money of a job you detest isn't worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.
7. Enjoy Life
Take the time to see the beauty around you. There's more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don't live in the past or the future.
8. Laugh
Don't take yourself - or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself - no one's perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)
9. Forgive
Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake - own up to it - learn from it - and FORGIVE yourself.
10. Gratitude
Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them - even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.
11. Invest in Relationships
Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don't break your promises to them. Be supportive.
12. Keep Their Word
Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.
13. Meditate
Meditation gives your very active brain a rest. When it's rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.
14. Mind Their Own Business
Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don't get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don't get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don't judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to - including you.
15. Optimism
See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It's there - even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in - replace it with a positive thought.
16. Love Unconditionally
Accept others for who they are. You don't put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones - you continue to love them.
17. Persistence
Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.
18. Be Proactive
Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don't waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire - rather than waiting to respond.
19. Self Care
Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.
20. Self Confidence
Don't try to be someone that you're not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside - your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don't second guess yourself.
21. Take Responsibility
Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they've made a mistake.
Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle - the happier you will be.
Most of all: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.
幸福是種習(xí)慣，去培養(yǎng)它～艾伯特哈博得
幸福是所有人的愿望。沒有人想悲傷，沮喪。我們也會(huì)看到有人即使身處痛苦的生活考驗(yàn)之中也總是保持幸福。我不是說幸福的人就不會(huì)感到悲傷，悲痛或悲哀；他們只是不想讓之影響生活。下面列舉幸福的人常有的21種習(xí)慣。
1. 感激生活
對(duì)你每天早晨一覺醒來還活著表示感謝。培養(yǎng)孩子般的對(duì)生活的好奇心。把注意力放到每件美好積極的事情上。每一天大部分時(shí)間都有所為。不要任何事情都想當(dāng)然。不要再小事上面投入太多。
2. 明智地選擇朋友
積極的人能分享你的價(jià)值觀和目標(biāo)，在你身邊時(shí)為你帶來快樂。和你有相同道德觀的朋友會(huì)鼓勵(lì)你實(shí)現(xiàn)你的夢(mèng)想。他們會(huì)幫你發(fā)現(xiàn)自身的優(yōu)點(diǎn)。他們會(huì)在你需要幫助時(shí)伸出手來。
3.做一個(gè)體貼的人
在生活中要學(xué)會(huì)接受他人，不論他們是誰來自何方，同時(shí)也要尊重他人。用平和慷慨的態(tài)度和人相處。力所能及地提供幫助，而不要試圖改變他人。試著讓和你接觸的每個(gè)人都心情愉快。
4. 不斷學(xué)習(xí)
堅(jiān)持了解和事業(yè)及愛好相關(guān)的最新時(shí)事。嘗試新鮮和刺激的事情來激發(fā)你的興趣-例如跳舞，滑雪，沖浪或跳傘。
5. 培養(yǎng)解決問題的能力
不要沉浸子啊自憐自艾之中。只要面臨挑戰(zhàn)就馬上想辦法解決。不要讓挫折影響你的情緒，反而要把每一個(gè)面臨的新的障礙看成是帶來積極轉(zhuǎn)變的機(jī)會(huì)。學(xué)會(huì)相信自己的直覺-它大部分時(shí)候總是對(duì)的
6. 做喜歡做的事
一些統(tǒng)計(jì)數(shù)據(jù)表明80%的人不喜歡自己的工作。所以到處都有不快樂的人也就不足為奇了。我們生活中大部分時(shí)間都在工作。選擇你喜歡的職業(yè)-為了多賺點(diǎn)錢去做討厭的工作并不劃算�；c(diǎn)時(shí)間享受你的愛好并培養(yǎng)自己特殊的興趣。
7. 享受生活
話時(shí)間來欣賞身邊美好的事物。對(duì)于生活有比工作更重要的事情。花點(diǎn)時(shí)間聞聞玫瑰的芳香，和愛人一起看日升日落，在海邊漫步，在叢林中散布等等。學(xué)會(huì)活在當(dāng)下并且珍惜。不要活在過去或?qū)怼?br />
8. 學(xué)會(huì)去笑不要對(duì)自己或者生活太嚴(yán)肅。你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)幽默無處不在。嘲笑自己也無所謂-沒有人是完美的。適當(dāng)?shù)男β晻?huì)讓環(huán)境變得輕松。（自然在不適合大笑的場(chǎng)合，你就要保持嚴(yán)肅）。
9. 寬容
心存怨恨只會(huì)傷害你自己而非別人。為了自己平和的心態(tài)而學(xué)會(huì)原諒他人。當(dāng)你自己犯了錯(cuò)誤-承認(rèn)它，從它當(dāng)中汲取教訓(xùn)-原諒自己。
10. 感激
培養(yǎng)一種態(tài)度叫做感激。所有的一切即便是小事也需要你的祝福。對(duì)你的家，你的工作和你最重要的家人，朋友心存感激。找時(shí)間告訴他們你的生活因?yàn)橛兴麄兌腋！?br />
11. 情感投資
即使和你愛的人產(chǎn)生矛盾，也要讓他們知道你是愛著他們的。花點(diǎn)時(shí)間和家人及朋友在一起自然相處。對(duì)他們要信守承諾。支持他們。
12. 遵守承諾
誠(chéng)實(shí)是最好的守則。你的一言一行都要建立在誠(chéng)實(shí)的基礎(chǔ)上。對(duì)你自己和你愛的人誠(chéng)實(shí)。
13. 冥想
冥想會(huì)讓你活躍的大腦放松。當(dāng)它輕松的時(shí)候，你會(huì)獲得更多的活力并且獲得更高效率。冥想的種類包括瑜伽，催眠，音樂放松,自我肯定，暢想或凝神靜坐。去發(fā)現(xiàn)那些你感興趣事并花點(diǎn)時(shí)間每天練習(xí)。
14. 做自己的事
專注于創(chuàng)造自己想要的生活方式。關(guān)心你自己及家人。不要太在意其他人說什么，做什么。不為流言蜚語，無理謾罵所困擾。不要妄加評(píng)判。每個(gè)人都有權(quán)利以自己的方式過自己想要的生活-其中也包括你。
15. 保持樂觀
杯子裝一半就好了。要學(xué)會(huì)看到現(xiàn)有環(huán)境積極的一面。即使很難發(fā)現(xiàn)-它們也客觀存在。要知道任何事情的產(chǎn)生都有原因，即使你也許永遠(yuǎn)都不知道原因是什么。明確地引導(dǎo)負(fù)面思想。如果負(fù)面思想仍然逐漸產(chǎn)生-用積極的思想代替它。
16. 無條件地去愛
學(xué)會(huì)接受他人。不要為愛加上限制。即使你愛的人也會(huì)有讓你不滿意的舉止-你也要繼續(xù)對(duì)他們的愛。
17. 堅(jiān)持
做到永不放棄。面對(duì)每一個(gè)新的挑戰(zhàn)，要懷有它會(huì)使你朝目標(biāo)更近一步的態(tài)度。你只要不放棄，就永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)輸。把注意力放到你想做的事情上，學(xué)一些必要的技能，為成功制定計(jì)劃并付諸實(shí)踐。當(dāng)我們收獲對(duì)自己有意義的東西后就會(huì)感到幸福。
18. 做積極的人
接受無法改變的事情。幸福哦對(duì)人呢不會(huì)在不能掌控的事情上浪費(fèi)精力。接受人無完人的現(xiàn)實(shí)。
19. 關(guān)心自己
關(guān)心自己的思想，身體和健康。做定期的醫(yī)療檢查。吃健康的食品并進(jìn)行鍛煉。保證充足的休息。喝大量的水。通過不斷的有趣和興奮的挑戰(zhàn)來鍛煉你的心智使它充滿活力。
20. 保持自信
不要試著成為你不會(huì)成為的那種人。畢竟沒有人喜歡假的東西。想想你內(nèi)心到底是什麼樣的-你有自己的是非喜好。對(duì)自己是怎樣的人保持自信。做最好的自己而不要猜測(cè)自己。
21. 擔(dān)負(fù)責(zé)任
幸福的人知道并了解他們?yōu)樽约旱纳顡?dān)負(fù)全部的責(zé)任。他們?yōu)樽约旱那榫w，態(tài)度，想法，感受，行為和言辭擔(dān)負(fù)責(zé)任。當(dāng)他們犯了錯(cuò)誤他們會(huì)是第一個(gè)承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤的人，。
今天從為了自己的幸福來擔(dān)負(fù)責(zé)任而開始。努力培養(yǎng)這些屬于你自己的習(xí)慣。你在日常生活中培養(yǎng)越多上述的習(xí)慣，你就會(huì)越來越幸福。
最重要的是：做一個(gè)真正的自己。
